Introduction
Before discovering FIRE later in life, my financial journey was far from perfect. Looking back, I realize there were many things I could have done differently. But rather than dwell on regrets, I see these mistakes as valuable lessons that have shaped the way I approach money and life today. Here are five key missteps I made—and how I’m working to address them. These lessons also highlight a broader philosophy I’ve embraced: the importance of balance—not just in finances, but across interests and lifestyle choices. More on that in future posts!
1. Not Prioritizing Investing with Purpose
Early on, I invested money, but I didn’t do it with any clear purpose or goal. My approach was haphazard and reactive—investing sporadically and without a thoughtful strategy. Without a plan, my investments felt scattered and often ended up being influenced by short-term trends rather than long-term objectives. Like many, I followed hearsay instead of informed strategies, leaving my investments scattered and without direction. It took time to realize that a thoughtful approach could transform my financial journey.
Lesson Learned: Investing without a purpose feels aimless and often leads to making sub-optimal choices as I learnt. Defining clear financial goals, like achieving Financial Independence (FI) by a certain time, has given my investing habits meaning and direction. Today, I strive for balance in my investment strategy: focusing on creating stability and resilience through thoughtful and diversified investments. By aligning my portfolio with my long-term goals, I’ve added both clarity and direction to my financial journey. (I’ll write more about creating balanced strategies, in a future post.)
2. Not Being Aware of Lifestyle Creep
As my income grew, so did my expenses. Without realizing it, my lifestyle expanded to match my paycheck. I often found myself ‘rewarding’ my hard work with upgrades—a new car, the latest gadget, or a bigger discretionary spending budget—after each career milestone. These changes felt justified and even necessary in the moment, but they quietly added up over time, gradually eroding my ability to invest meaningfully.
Lesson Learned: Lifestyle creep is subtle but powerful. I realized these upgrades provided fleeting satisfaction but rarely added meaningful fulfillment to my life. I now evaluate expenses based on whether they truly add value to my life, rather than just fulfilling fleeting wants. For example, I now prioritize experiences that create lasting memories—like traveling to see all seven Wonders of the World with my daughters before they graduate college (we have two more to go!)—over indulgences like a car or gadget upgrades. Achieving balance here has been key: enjoying the present while staying committed to long-term goals.
3. Falling Victim to Consumer Traps
I was often lured by sales, “hot deals,” discounts, and “limited-time offers,” buying things I didn’t need in the name of saving money. These impulsive purchases gave me a brief sense of satisfaction, but many ended up unused or forgotten, leaving me with clutter and regret. The fear of missing out on a “great deal” often outweighed my better judgment. Chasing the next best deal not only drained my finances but also cost me something even more valuable—time.
Lesson Learned: Consumer traps are designed to exploit impulsive decisions. I’ve since learned to pause and ask myself if a purchase aligns with my priorities and truly adds value to my life. This mindful approach has helped me shift from quantity to quality, freeing up resources for things that truly matter—like building a balanced financial portfolio or pursuing hobbies that enrich my life. By recognizing the psychology behind these traps, I’ve gained more control over my spending habits.
4. Not Investing in Serious Self-Education About Investing
For years, I thought investing meant picking random stocks or relying on hearsay. I didn’t take the time to understand the basics of markets, compounding, or diversification. Without this knowledge, I lacked the confidence to make informed decisions and often ended up chasing trends rather than building a stable portfolio.
Lesson Learned: Educating myself about investing has been transformative. Understanding the power of index funds, diversification, and real estate has given me confidence and control over my financial future. I’ve also learned to appreciate the importance of achieving better balanced investment via uncorrelated asset categories, like combining equities, bonds, gold/materials and real estate, to reduce risk and improve stability. (I’ll explore building a balanced investment portfolio in a future post.)
5. Not Considering Investments Holistically
I used to think of investments strictly in terms of financial returns, focusing solely on growing my wealth. But I overlooked the importance of investing in other areas of life—like health, education, and relationships—which are equally vital for long-term wellness. Similarly, I overlooked balancing personal interests, which left some parts of my life feeling incomplete.
Lesson Learned: True investing goes beyond money. Today, I see investments as holistic, encompassing financial growth, personal development, and well-being. For example, I’ve learned to balance my seemingly unrelated interests—like South Indian classical ‘Carnatic’ music and recreational handgun shooting—because they enrich different aspects of my life. I also strive to balance global travel with my deep appreciation for the Pacific Northwest, enjoying both the wide world and the beauty of staying local. I’ll share more about this philosophy of balance in upcoming posts.
Conclusion:
We all make mistakes, especially when it comes to money and life. The important thing is to learn from them and move forward with intention. These five lessons have shaped how I approach my FIRE journey with a focus on balance, and I hope they resonate with you.
What about you? Have you made financial mistakes that taught you valuable lessons? I’d love to hear from you—whether it’s about the challenges you’ve faced or the steps you’ve taken toward a balanced financial journey. I’d love to hear your thoughts—drop me a note or share your story in the comments!
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